Is she rude?

My bgf %26amp; I have been friends for 25 yrs. Our kids (her 28 yr old daughter, my 28 yr old daughter %26amp; my 25 yr old son) have known each other most of their lives. We refer to each other as aunts, cousins, etc. I have made a point of being involved in her child's life but she never really did the same. Her daughter is getting married. I鈥檝e helped w/ center pieces %26amp; my husband %26amp; I gave her %26amp; her fianc茅 a couples shower (dinner, cocktails, the works). After invitations went out I was telling my bgf what my kids were getting her daughter for a wedding gift. She told me my kids were not invited. She said that they were having to cut costs %26amp; had to cross some people off the list. I didn't agree w/ it, but I wanted to be understanding. I let it go. Then I find out they invited the hairstylist who I referred them to and he is NOT going to be doing their hair. She is paying for her daughter鈥檚 wedding %26amp; had major input on the guest list. I'm very hurt %26amp; she thinks I鈥檓 unreasonable. I was supposed to help decorated, etc. the day of, but I told her given the circumstances I think I鈥檝e already done enough. Is she rude or am I wrong?

Is she rude?

I am sorry that you have been hurt. I would be too, not just because of the things that you have done for her, her daughter, and her fiance, but because most important of all the past that the two of you and your children have shared together. I would say, that yes she is being rude by not inviting your children. Is it just the wedding that your children are not invited to or the reception as well. If it is the wedding than to me she is way out of line. If it is the reception, than you could offer to pay for your children's plates, but I will tell you this would put a big gap between myself and my friend. I would not offer or feel expected to help your friend anymore, unless she starts singing a different tune. BTW, your not being unreasonable. My humble opinion. Good luck. Hope things work out for all of you!

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yes

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she is kind of rude

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she is rude...if your going to do so much then she shouldnt act that way!!

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well really it isnt your kids wedding, so under the circumstancess what do you think you would really do, dont you thing that the daughter that is getting married has an input in this, so the mom may not have control over what is going on

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i think she's wrong....she shouldn't have taken your kids off the guest list. So I wouldn't worry about it that much. Just let it go, and to tell her that it doesn't bother you, dont' show up either. 鈾モ櫏

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Don't be hurt it's their loss!

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both of you were! but mostly her!

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wow how rude is that? try asking her why she excluded you from all that, because she has a problem with "sharing"

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It sounds like she's being a bit rude, since all you wanted to do was just help out. My guess is that your friend got jealous of you being involved of the planning of the wedding (perhaps doing a better job than her?). It's okay to feel upset about it, since I'm definetely not going to tell you to just "let it go." You should confront your friend (privately would be best) and ask her why she cut you off for the wedding; demand a reason, even if she doesn't want to give you one.

I hope my advice helps.

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She is a veritable cow.

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i will be hurt too if given the same circumstances.you treat her as a close friend and expectect her to treat you the same. give you a little importance since you're willing to help her in every way.but her character is different from yours and you have to accept it.probably she thought you will understand. but you have the right to be hurt and act on it ,and if she is a friend she will understand too.