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I have two-year-old twin boys, who I love to pieces. My eldest boy, William, has recently had a lot of medical problems with his ears (diagnosed completely deaf in his left ear, caused by glue ears) and also had reoccurring tonsillitis. He is on a waiting list to have an operation, which will have grommets inserted into both ears as well as a tube inserted into his Eustachian tube, plus his tonsils %26amp; and adenoids are going to be removed. Plus he also has Obstructive Sleep Apnea.

Now William has a real problem when it comes to bed. They both have slept all night since 3 months, but now William wakes up screaming (and I mean the scream like he is petrified or in extreme pain). He gets into these angry rages and will thrash about until he is allowed out into the lounge room. We have been really firm with him, and constantly taking him back to bed.

He has now started hurting himself. I know, he is only 2 how can he hurt himself. He bites himself, has drew blood and left numerous bruises over himself. Also he head butts the walls, and pulls his hair out. I am really scared; he is such a lovely happy boy until bedtime comes.

I just really want him to stop hurting himself. I have been crying all day over it. He won閳ユ獩 listen to neither Andrew and I. I know I should take him to the doctor: I do have an appointment Friday.

Please does any one have any advise how to stop these fits he is having. He is so aggressive and him hurting himself scares me. Any advise????

A plea for help (I am sorry it is long)?

I feel so bad for you and your son. Sounds like he is in some sort of pain, and you did the right thing as far as making him a Dr.'s appointment. Can you call them and tell them that it is an emergency? Dr.'s offices leave extra appointments open for emergencies. Also, when he is hurting himself maybe you could restrain his arms until he gets thru the fit. I really feel hurt for him because he can't tell you what is wrong. I am sure you are a great mother and I am sure everything will work out. God Bless you and your boys.

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The first thing that came to mind reading the above is that this is abnormal behaviour for any age. I don't think anybody can help you with this. William needs specialist help urgently. It must be awful for your, particularly with twins, but make an earlier appointment with your doctor, phone the local hospital and ask for advice. They might ask you to bring him so he can be admitted. You need to act quickly for his sake, his twin and your sanity.

Good luck.

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You should take him to a doctor. I took care of a child once and found out she hurt herself because she couldnt endure a pain so she tried to stop it. She got an MRI done and they found out she had severe headaches at night.

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he definitely needs a doctor prescribed sedative/pain killer which would serve as both a mild sedative and pain killer all in one, try also some prescribed ear drops !and! use a good set of ear plugs in the bath, until he gets his tubes in, or if he won't keep them in use some warm rubbing alcohol or hydrogyn peroxide in his ears after a bath (it helps to dry out the ear after a bath or swimming). if you have some baby/children's Tylenol you can give him dosage said on package - and that should help to a great extent - make sure he has extra water if you're giving him medicines, i would give it nearly round the clock, at bed time try children's/baby's Motrin - it lasts for eight hours of sleep, %26amp; you might want to wake him up early with another dose to finish his sleep time, because we all know baby's sleep a long time and even longer when ill. Or, if you don't like medicines, maybe you could try a good green sleepytime tea in his chicken soup or such : )

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If he is angry then find out why and then try to deal with it in a sensitive manner. And if he is scared at night then allow him to sleep somewhere else, maybe the lounge room if it makes him feel secure. And of course, the doctor should be advised of his behavior to investigate whether it may be related to his medical problems.

As a parent, one of your most important jobs is to make your small children always feel secure, even when you are shaking in your own boots. Keep a calm and soothing voice and reassure the child that you love him no matter what. Regular bedtime routines (stories, prayers, or whatever) can be very helpful at that age because it prepares the child mentally for being alone at night. And we are all alone in our sleep, no matter how old.

It can be very scary to be a small child with virtually no control over your own life.

WK

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Hmm, a 2 yr old, self-injurious, I hope he isn't autistic. Maybe that is just a stereotype? Hope he has a good, caring doctor and not an overbearing know it all. Tell the doctor EVERYTHING you are telling us at that upcoming appointment.

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wow your house sounds as exciting as mine!, lol

poor william, when i was 5 i had my tonsils, adenoids and tubes in my ears too, those three things must all come at once! i was only 5 but i remember that hospital stay so well!

he sounds pretty frustrated at bedtime, my nephew used to hurt himself badly at 2 years old too, [hes 23 now!] he used to bang his head on the tiles, and once he headbutt his head right through my parents glass door!, he used to pull his hair out too,

maybe hes a little overtired by bedtime, its so hard to explain to a 2yr old how to behave, they wont listen, my 3yr old still wont listen, its the terrible twos, he will grow out of it soon, try to distract him when hes out of control, ????? i dunno just keep trying anything, please dont stress and b upset by it, we all have little terrors, its hard but once theyr over 4 they r so much easier to control and bribe, lol

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My tonsils and adnoids were removed when I was 14 yrs. old. The doctor said I wouldn't get as many colds then , and I haven't since. My daughter sounds like your son, she's the daddy's girl and she just has FITS. She screams and yells and wants everything Her way (she's 12). She doesn't do this at school or at her friends houses, only at home. If she eats in the living room, she wants Dad to take her plate in the kitchen and rinse it off, and he does it. Maybe that's why she's that way, he spoils her too much.She likes to throw things and hit the walls and scream a lot too. Drives me nuts cause Dad puts up with it.

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i believe he is in acute pain in his ears, i dont know why, it could be ear infection or related to glue ear.

a crying scream is pain induced not because he is angry. are his ears red or sore to touch if you pull his lobe?

his temperature ok?

he could be in so much pain that he is re directing it on to himself and it becoming behaviour symptomatic of pulling hair, head banging, and biting self.

if he wants comfort let him stay up with you for a while until he calms down and it wouldnt hurt to admin childrens panadol for suspect pain.