earn 鎷?400 a month after tax and i spend 鎷?500-1600 a mth on mortge %26amp; bills.(inc food shopping) i make sure the baby has about 100-150 a month for bits and pieces and i need 200-250 a month for travelling and work expenses.my wife gets 鎷?00 for herself . that means only max. 鎷?00 every month saved %26amp; it is starting to worry me.. I have asked my wife to cut her spending down to 200-250 so we could save more. i have already suggested making lunches for myself from monday to save 100-150 a month i spend on lunches. but she is not prepared to budge and says i am being selfish? am i? i dont think so. im trying so hard to make her and my bay happy but now i am feeling drained emotionally. she says she needs some comforts as a woman every month i.e waxing hair done etc.. and that i coundlt understand. i say why not wax from home? but she gets angry wen i suggest that. i have now started to do overtime at office to make more money and dnt get home till after 9pm and am so tired and drained.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
The two of you need to sit down and really talk. You need to tell her how worried and stressed you are and ask for her cooperation. Ask her to help you figure out a budget that will work and allow for some savings. Enlist her help and work on it as partners. You both need to share in the responsibilities and the benefits. You both need to feel like you have some choices and some freedom. You both need to feel that saving for the future is a benefit you both want.
If she will not cooperate with you, you may need to sit with an objective third person to help you sort it out. That might be a marriage counselor, a financial adviser, or even an older friend (or couple) that you both admire and trust. Who that person will be should be something that the two of you agree on together.
It's very important that you start working together as a team--as partners who are responsible for the raising of your baby and for all of your futures. The money you bring home is money that belongs to the whole family and each of you should be willing to answer for how it is spent.
You should teach this principle to your boy as well as he grows older. He will need to realize that when he spends money on things he wants or needs, that money comes from the family money that belongs to the whole family.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
See a family therapist. Or just dont give her the extra money..
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
no u r not being selfish
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
It's hard to pull wax off of your own as.s
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Just tell her that with the rate of inflation that she is going to have to cut back and just give her less money. Say 350 a month instead of 400.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Honey, I'm a woman and I think that's crap. She needs to give up some of that added luxury for the benefit of the family. She can wax herself! This isn't about her...this is about you as a family unit. Sorry, but sometimes you have to make sacrifices. Someday, she won't have to...but right now isn't the time for her to blow money on unnecessary things.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
You are being very reasonable..
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Seems like you have spoiled her all this time and now she's accustomed to her lifestyle. I don't think you're being selfish at all. I think she need to compromise.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
wow, under the circumstances, i'd say your wife is lucky. I don't get NOTHING from my husband! She also needs to understand that as a family, you all need to work together, even during the rough financial times. You sound like a decent man, don't let this woman kill you!
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
from where i live the your total income is half your wives.
an allowance is like something you do for a kid
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
The term "wife's allowance" is disturbing. An allowance usually refers to children..not to adults, in what is meant to be a partnership. I suggest sitting down weekly and writing out bills together. Maybe when she sees just how far you are trying to stretch the money, she will be more willing to save also.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
It sounds like she's the one who's being selfish. If she wants money for all these "womanly comforts" then suggest for her to get a job.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Your not being selfless she is. I'm not sure how much 400 pounds is but it should be 125 pounds for her and 125 pounds for you for fun money and 400 pounds in the bank. I would also tell her to get her butt to work if she wants more money and she can pay for the child care............I know I will hear crap for this from others but I believe in a 50 - 50 partnership. She is suckering you big time. Spoiled is a good word for her.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Put yourself in her shoes for a moment. She's living on an allowance. She has no say, no input, she's not out there working, no control. Tell her your main concern, that you think more should be going into savings, and ask her what she thinks a good solution would be. Put the problem and answer in her hands instead of telling her what to do. She may surprise you, or maybe not. You only live once (that I know of) and while it's good to have goals and be practical, you also have to stop and smell the roses once in a while. If you are contributing to your retirement, and you are putting away some savings, and you have no major debt....you know, I think you all are doing really well. Maybe if you approached it more as a partnership, went to her for more guidance and advice, she would be more willing to help....she's not your child.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Have you tried sitting down and talking to her and tell her how you feel. and you are not being selfish, if you were you wouldn't be giving her all that. all your doing is trying to make you and your family comfortable . but working all the time is not good. you need some time to rest. maybe give her less. and put the rest in the bank. good luck.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
You are not being selfish, your wife is. Sounds like she's got it made. ;) Doesn't have to worry about bills, food, even has money to buy stuff for the baby. Wish I had that, lol! Geez, I would love to even have $50 US to spend on myself each month! You shouldn't have to be working overtime just because your wife doesn't want to cut down on expenses.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Maybe get her more involved in the finances, so she can see where you are financially, and what you are trying to accomplish. You have suggested bringing lunches, so she should compromise somewhere. If she wants to spend more, she could get a PT job, working the evening hours you are now working to get your family somewhere. Or you could suggest she work and you stay home with the baby...
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
If she wants to spend more, she needs to get a job.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Seems like your making it fine to me. Your just be paranoid don't know why. But your wife is right they do need to get their hair done so we can mess it up at night and other womanly things. ANd your so into making money your hurting yourself and not thinking about how much you can save just the way you are. Because if you can save 2oo pounds a month and your doing ok. Hey enjoy your life more instead of working overtime. Because once you save 200 pounds a month hey in a year it's 2400 pounds and then some if you invest wisely. SO chill out and enjoy your life while your still young.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
tell her to get a part-time job for some of her spending money. Give her $150 a month for herself. that is plenty. there are no rules that state you have to give a wife a certain amount of money a month. I spend about $150 a month on myself and my three year old, for shoes, clothes, my nails and beauty/hair products and little house stuffs. New clothes are not necessary all the time, i get maybe a couple shirts or an outfit a month and im happy. what is your wife spending that much on? really let her know you need to save and limit her money or tell her to make some herself. you cant work that much, we are here to enjoy our lives, spend fun times with the kids, don't let your bonding time be cut short it goes by too fast.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
You are being reasonable.. HAS she reviewed the budget.. Maybe if she does she will know that you are doing your best and you want to start saving money for the future.. Maybe you can both go grocery shooing together and plan on what will be packed for lunch,, maybe she can get herself beautified at home ....or buy a wax kit of her own..... Maybe she needs to get a part time job and spend her own money on the beauty expenses. Whatever the answer is try to work it out before a divorce happens ,.....she needs to know that you are overwhelmed and very upset with her compromises
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
have you asked her to get a job?
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
if what you give isn't enough you have one lousy wife, tell her to earn her own extra income, and cut down on your workload. enjoy life--she certainly does,
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
geez i wish you were my hubby, I dont see that kind of money... I have 4 children all teens, I work a full time job, dont have time to have nails done or hair, Im out of work at 230 and its off to soccer, football, cheerleading or what else needs to be done..... house work too. I wear my hair most of the time in a pony tail, or something i do myself, my hubby and i make are lunches at home for work, i wax myself when needed..... I think she needs to start to back off from the funds a little bit or she will never see you, because you will always work overtime, and you will be to tired to spend time with her and the baby.... Well good luck and god bless and dont work to hard!!!!!!!!
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Seems to me you both have an allowance. Better call it a budget. Too bad you married a spoiled child Let her have some say in the process and help decide how the two of you can save money together. The whole procedure could be far more successful.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
I think I have a funny feeling over this, you are just working your *** off for your over pampered wife. She sits at home and you go out and bring home for her to squander.
You are the head of your home and must provide leadership to your spouse by letting her know the implications of her squandermania on herself, the baby and the marriage. If she refuses, go ahead and cut down on her allowance. She will only grumble but will keep calm eventually. Do it for her future and that of your baby remember; S = I. I suggest 250 for you, 200 for her and 450 into savings ok. She will be grateful to you later in life for this.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
wow you sound like me. well if your taking lunch your wife should let one thing go too try it for a month and little by little take things away u can do without or downsize it any overtime i would not count it in your spending pool put that in your savings since your the one working overtime your wife has come acustom to the lifestyle you either gave her or she made for herself by you just agreeing to make her happy when your not around or for vain purposes or just to feel good about herself which doing just alittle doesn't hurt she should sacrifice alittle too i agree. good luck
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
yep... this needs some outside help, Seems to be my response to everyone today... but a good counsellor who is objective will help her.
'iether that... or why doesn't she get a job to give her the money she believes she needs. her contribution could help too couldn;t it.
Wax or switch to a razor... I mean really....
Does she see the numbers? have you shown her what's coming in and what's going out? If she has and doesn't care... it's gonna get ugly unless she pitches in.
good luck.
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
She is the one being selfish. Tell her to start contributing or she will have no money to spend!
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
Sounds to me like someone is spoiled. If u really wanna save the money......put it up when u get paid, so she doesnt have access to it....Cut her down...She dont need all that crap....Or better yet.....Make her get a job so she can spend her own money!
Wifes allowance - am i right or wrong???
%26lt;%26lt;she says she needs some comforts as a woman every month i.e waxing hair done etc..%26gt;%26gt;
She doesn't NEED those comforts, she just WANTS those comforts. No one that is a SAHM(which I assume she is, if she isn't, sorry for the assumption) NEEDS to primp. The things she is having you pay someone else to do for her are things she can do at home. Waxing too hard to do by herself? She should shave, or use Nair or Veet. And what is so special about her hairstyle that she has to get it done EVERY MONTH?!! Forgive me for being a "tomboy", but I've just never been able to understand the amount of primping a woman pays someone else to do for her. If she just HAS TO HAVE all that primping and comfort, maybe she should get a job to help pay for it.
Oh, yea, if you couldn't tell:P, I DON'T think you are being selfish.
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